Friday, February 28, 2014

Old man


The ashes of old cigars burn long into the stories of old men. Men telling of how they built their lives on the foundations we find standing today. Foundations built by hand and sweat.  

Sitting on the front porch listening to the rain on the roof of the chicken coop, gathering in the corners of the roof and falling to the ground in a steady stream the old man’s cigar ash burns long. The sweet smoke meanders about in the swirling spring winds of the rain storm. The only light visible comes from the small kitchen window behind him in the late night darkness. The cigar burns red under the growing ash of the cigar as he reminisces of days past.  

He recalls being a young child and hitching a team up to the wagon to gather firewood. He a young boy, traveled several miles with his father and brothers to cut timber from the nearby hills and canyons for wood to burn in his mother’s stove. Raising before the sun to feed the animals and hitch the team, it was a two hour ride by wagon. They spent the day cutting trees by hand with axes and misery whips to lengths that could be loaded. For him it was a struggle but his older brothers and father lifted the logs 4’ long  with great power. It took most of the day to cut and load the wagon. It was hot work but had to be done in the summer when the trees were dry and the crops were growing. After the wagon was loaded the rest was stacked to dry, they would return for it another time. Once home the wood was bucked into smaller pieces, split and stacked. They had little choice then. It was either gather the wood or freeze during winter and eat raw food. Now in his elder years with a gas lines running into homes, his hands crippled with the scars of arthritis and a life’s hard work, he still burns a wood stove to heat the small cabin style home. It takes him much longer to split the wood than it did when he was younger but he wakes every morning early to a pot of coffee brewed on wood burning stove top and tends to this daily tasks. He does not complain about the work he performs but worries for the future of his children and grandchildren who have grown and moved away. The wisdom and education learned through a lifetime waning and dying with his age. 

The cool of the rain filled air chilled the old man and he steps inside the warmth of the small home. He remarks at the warmth and steps to the stove adding a large log to the coals flickering as he opens the creaking cast iron door. A story of spring wheat and planting before the last frost when most crops could be safely planted. Pointing to and old grain mill on the counter he recalls the wheat he ground for some bread he had made recently was harvested in the fall of his father’s death. That was the last large yield they had gathered bearing nearly two tons of grain from the small area they had planted. His father past away shortly after that harvest, he stopped with a somber face pausing for some time before continuing. I said little as I was lost in his words and my imagination ran wild with his memories. The night continued with stories of hard work, hard times and great rewards. At the end of the night I crawled under the sheets thinking of the heat in the cabin and how it had been created by the hands of a man forgotten. 

I awoke the next morning to the smell of fresh coffee and pancakes. The old man had risen and prepared breakfast with barely a noise. I looked out the window to see the early dawn light peeking into the window. Breakfast was warm and the pancakes were the best I had tasted. Made with the wheat flour mentioned the night before. They did not need syrup or jam as they were sweet with a nutty taste. I was excited about the day as today was the day the learning began.  

Breakfast was finished and we stepped out the back to a small shed. The buildings itself was a masterpiece of hard work. Each timber hand hewn to a square and stacked with great accuracy to a height of eight or nine feet.  The door was thick hand cut timber with the saw marks still showing like the signature of an artist’s brush strokes. The hinges were handmade wooden sculptures that made no noise as the door was swung open. Entering into shed I was amazed at the organization of so many tools. Axes on one wall with large cross cut saw next to them. All very well cared for and razor sharp. The back corner had what I had come looking for. A stack of neatly configured brick forming the forge with anvils and tools neatly arranged in front.  

It took but a second for him to spark a fire in the forge and get the coal burning red with almost no flame. As he took a heated steel from the fire his crooked fingers and stiff joints seemed to work like an orchestra as the old man manipulated steel teaching me a lifetime of skill.  Over the next week I was marveled by the skill of an artist and the wisdom of his age.  

During the time spent in the small cabin I heard stories of grief and happiness, was taught how to turn steel into art with the swing of a hammer. I split more wood than I thought could be used in a lifetime. I ate like a king and earned a friend.  

Now I sit on my porch in the coolness of a spring rainstorm, rain bouncing off the chicken coop and gathering in the corners of the roof falling in steady streams. My house is heated by a gas furnace and lit by electricity much to the displeasure of and old man I’m sure. The ash on my cigar burns long as I imagine the old man, wondering what he would have been like if he existed outside my dreams.

Monday, February 3, 2014

A fallen brothers prayer


Dear lord, please watch over the flock and the mighty sheep dogs at their sides. Let them feel the peace that I am safe and they are now walking in the fire I once braved my way through. Keep humble the hearts and eyes sharp of the guardians left in my steed that they may serve fearless in the face of evil.

Give comfort to the families of the fallen beside me that they know we are with them and they are safe with my brothers watching over them still. Let them not dwell on the loss but use it as a fire in their heart to show the love they have to those who remain.

Protect my brothers who remain with your mighty hand and let them show the love they have for their families, when they meet us again they may know their families are safe in your embrace and you have provided them many of our brothers to help them when we cannot.

To my brothers who remain. Hug your children, love your wives, call your families to say hello. Raise a glass if you must in remembrance, but drink for the joy and enjoy every drop whether its coffee or other matters not. Sit with your brothers on duty and enjoy a good meal, Laugh about the good times and cry when you must.  

Lord as I stand here to be judged at your feet I ask only one thing. Judge me as I was in my life and not in my death. I was imperfect in my actions and carried demons that I worked to be free, but alas I was human and not perfect at all. I wore the badge and took on call that it carried at the expense of my family and their love for me. They suffered a loss greater than most, the loss of a husband, a father, a brother and more. The loss they suffered was not at my death but at the games and reunions I missed for the badge and the call that I carried that they suffered for most. Judge me now that I may show them one day the love I have for them and my brothers left to carry my burden.

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

My wife is my compass


My wife is my compass. The more age I gather, the more I realize the stupid things I did as a child and as a young adult. I am most successful when I am helping or thinking of someone else. Before my wife I had little in life I valued. I have a large family but did not realize the value they held and still learn of the value they continually provide every day.

 

As a child my compass pointed in whatever direction I happened to be moving. I had no course and no care of the course I was on. The ignorance of adolescence is an easy scapegoat and had some influence on why I did the things I did. When I was a young adult my compass did not seem to have any more luck pointing me in the direction I needed to go. For a while it seemed as if the needle was being moved by a fictional magnet forcing the compass in whatever direction was the easiest. It was a cloud was over my eyes and I was indulging myself in the relaxation of ignorance. While I should have been putting my shoulder to a grindstone and making something of myself. I squandered money and tore down the building blocks of trust and my reputation.

 

At the time I did not know she would be my wife. I merely gawked and awed over her beauty. My compass however managed to overcome the burden of the false magnetic pulls and steered me toward meeting her and eventually asking her to be my wife. Even when we first married I wasn’t sure my compass was working but I knew I loved her. There are several pivotal moments in my marriage that she taught me things about myself that no one could have ever told me, either because I wouldn’t have listened or because I, well I am stubborn. I have come to learn though that my compass has never had a stronger bearing and she is the force that keeps it pointed North. The things in my life that I thought were important have become distractions, memories of the past that has brought me here.

 

There are still many things I wish to accomplish in my life or things I would like to experience and now have a course to bring me closer to those dreams. My compass still wavers off course from time to time but it never fails to correct my course as it failed in the past. There are so many good things I could say about my wife but I think it better to keep it short and just simply say. Thank you, I love you. You are my compass and my true north, without you I would be lost and my path would be narrow, winding and indistinguishable among the forest of life.

Saturday, December 28, 2013

Silence


What happened to the silence? The television in the background, IPODS singing the songs of a generation that doesn’t know silence and is nervous at night when the only company their ears have is the silence of the night.

The early morning hours are quiet and deceitfully calm. In just a few moments the silence will be broken by the early risers of corporate competition racing up the roads with people late for work and children screaming trying to find a lost shoe. In the daylight engines will run and the silence is broken by job sites and people hustling about their day in the noise, comfortable with themselves and not realizing that silence is their anxiety.

Sitting among the silence now, memories of moments where the quiet of a mountainside sitting among the oak and sagebrush was a friend. I wonder how it has come that no one enjoys the silence. My mind returns to a story of my grandfather when he was a child. He would plow small plots of ground as best he could and then stare at the ground in seemingly lost thought. I compare this to my own life of preparing a spring garden and smelling the freshness of the turned earth. The peacefulness of the work and quiet mind it provides makes me wonder what he was thinking of while staring at his reward of hard work. I find myself relating to him as I have stared at the freshly turned soil and thought how beautiful a simple thing of a freshly plowed garden looks. In those moments the silence overtakes my mind and I do not hear the racing of worldly noise. My quiet heart aches at the thought of my grandfather’s childhood happiness is now covered by sand traps and carefully mowed greens.

My children do not know the silence I speak of. It seems as though much of the generation younger than me barely knows a moment of silent thought. Technology and the endless need to keep up with friends, keep them from moments to clear their mind and wonder about life. As my youngest boys rises this morning and pours himself a bowl of cereal even the act of eating breaks the silence when he crunches while he chews. There was a short period in my life where I worked the evenings and on the weekends because of my work schedule, I was allowed the peaceful morning hours alone to sit on a porch for hours with warm coffee and do nothing but listen to the silence. This was one of my most treasured times and I looked forward to it every week. These times are now fewer but when they happen I lose myself in my thoughts. The air breathed in these moments seems cleaner and deeper than regular life. I treasure these moments and I seek them out in my life. Now I often find them in the noisiest parts of my day while mowing a lawn or welding a fence. In these moments I realize the silence is not missing but has evolved. It is not the silence of noise I look for although I still find great joy when the volume is muted. It is the silence of my mind and the places I can travel when my mind is silent and the noise around me is quieted by my thoughts.

Silence is golden I was always told. Now it’s out the old and in with the new, gold prices rise and noise levels too. Gold is no longer, longed for by most it is merely a safe zone for the money they host.  Markets clamber to the safety of gold, when the noise is too great for the economy to hold. Where is the silence we valued so much, like a good friend we valued their trust? The golden silence is rare and for many is gone, what will happen if the silence is lost? I tell you my friends it cannot be lost, instead it is found in the moments of life, when we quiet our minds and block out the strife. In the moments of quiet take a deep breathe and remember from where you come and where you went.

I love the silence and the calm of my mind. I find these moments when I least expect them during arduous work or the company of a good friend. I still seek time of true silence when I hunt or rise early before my children.  In the world today when we can buy food at will and technology connects us every second of our lives. I challenge you to find a moment of silence, turn off the phone and Television. Create a moment.

 

 

Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Lesbian Gay Marriage


Recently Utah’s law against gay and lesbian marriage was ruled unconstitutional by a judge. I have seen many in support of this ruling pasting there comments on twitter and Facebook and the happiness it brings them to see people who love each other being able to finally show their love and be married. Many have criticized any in opposition to the ruling as being narrow minded and only being able to argue the fact that it is against their religious beliefs or personal fears.

Well I felt it was time I addressed the inequality I see.

I have no fear of Lesbian or gay couples or the people who are lesbian and gay who have not yet found a soul mate. What I do fear is the degradation and erosion of values and I’m not just talking about marriage. I’m talking about honest pay for honest work, self-reliance, inequality and the realization that men are not created equal. We all have strengths and weakness, we as a whole rely on those strengths and weakness to survive but we act as if we could do it all alone.

Well you’re wrong! I dare one of you to plant a hay field or butcher a cow. How about pick up a rifle and go to war, or care for the elderly and clean their beds when they defecate because they can no longer walk. How about stock the shelves at your grocery store or wait tables for 12 hours. We are a society of people that must live together and just because you don’t get your way is no reason to throw a fit or changes laws. Lastly when you are in the hardest moments of your life do not pray quietly for anyone’s help. No one person can do it alone.

No one can argue that allowing lesbians or gays to marry is unconstitutional. Anyone opposed to Lesbian and Gay marriage has a personal or religious problem with it. You are absolutely correct. As the constitution is written in my opinion Lesbian and Gay couples are allowed the same protection to the pursuit of happiness and marriage. Anyone opposed absolutely does have a problem either personally or religiously with Gay and Lesbians being allowed to marry. SO WHAT?! How does a person who disagrees with you or anyone’s personal or religious views and then voicing those opinions differ from Gays and Lesbians marching down a street with signs? It doesn’t. People who disagree with Gay and Lesbian Marriage have just as much AND EQUAL right to oppose it as anyone one does to support it.

The inequality of the situation is not the fact that Gays and Lesbians are not allowed to marry. The inequality I see comes from the one sided bigotry on both sides saying that one has no right to oppose their view and any other view but their own is wrong.

I personally do not agree with homosexuality in general, marriage or otherwise. I have deep beliefs of both religious and personal views that lying man with man or woman with woman is wrong. I have many personal beliefs that others do not and likely will never agree with. I will have a conversation with anyone about any of them anytime. I am not calling anyone else wrong, I am simply disagreeing and forming my own opinion. If you call me narrow minded or disagree with me and claim I am unconstitutional. I will simply point out you are hiding behind the same rights and beliefs you claim I am violating.

I will not let my personal views interfere with the performance of the courts or law but I will also never give in on my beliefs because you think I am wrong just as no one else should because they disagree with me.

The fact that we can disagree and then rely on each other to survive as a society is what makes us not only human but Americans protected by one of the greatest constitutions and bill of rights ever written and enacted.

 

I also support the second amendment, Drug testing of those on public assistance, abortion, capital punishment, my own family values, hard work, eating animals, growing vegetables, stand your ground defense laws and many more.

Feel free to disagree.

Thursday, November 21, 2013


Wind

The wind laughs at my windows tonight, a weather warning to secure what’s loose and bundle up. The cold winter air made frigid by the unseen force that causes the trees to bow and sway like dancers in a great ballroom.

I find solace in the wind. Tonight it is not accompanied by the snow or rain but the darkness of night and the chill of the winter air. I sit listening to the siding on the house flutter where the craftsmen’s nails have loosened over time and the call of its whistle on the edges of the window sills. The winds are strong and by morning the evidence of its strength will be apparent in the morning sunlight.  Broken trees, odd pieces of loose refuse stuck in a fence or the missing panel off a barn roof will be all that is left except the cool air and a mild breeze.

I find myself wanting to enter into its fury and sit among its dancers watching them sway. I do not fear the destruction of its power, but I love many who do. My breath feels deeper when I stand among the storm and feel the cold against my unprotected face. Walking amongst the wind I feel a calmness not offered by relaxation techniques, a good movie or even the long awaited hug of a loved one.

I wander outside to sit amongst my furious friend and listen to his story. The deep moans as it rushes over the roof and the high pitch whines of thin branches slicing it in two. The wind cuts through my clothing with a chill and causes me to pull my arms in close. Walking in the field I hear the shaking of metal roofs and vinyl fences. Deep down I wish I could hear only the wind. My imagination takes me to forest rich with trees, rivers and lakes to walk among where I sit on the porch of a cabin crafted by the tools of a woodsman. The darkness is almost black as the stars are covered by the clouds that ride along with my friend. The lights of a distant farmhouse seem to flicker with the movement of trees and my thoughts return to the present.

Taking deep breaths of the air rushing past me I think of my wife. She does not have the same affection for the wind I have. This thought makes me think of our strengths. Like a jigsaw puzzle we fit together and where I lack strength she fills the gap. Is it the same with fears? My whole life I never wanted children until I met her. Was my fear of children only there to be filled by a women with no fear? What else did I fear that she does not or were her fears the things I embraced? Who would have thought the wind had powers to cause such thoughts. Maybe that is why I find solace in its Chaos. I have always found something calm about the weather everyone else hides from. Cold, Wind, Rain, Snow but not heat.

I light the lantern in my shed and my thoughts return to a cabin paradise where the wind could talk to me without the aid of boards slapping the side of a house. I stand in the lantern light and wonder if I am misplaced or would I be misplaced if I had a place of my dreams and imagination. Tomorrow I will wake before the morning sun. I will put on my uniform and belt get in my truck and go to work. When the sun rises and the stress of the workday starts to set in. I will witness the beautiful entanglement my friend has left. I will return to this moment again and again until he returns to sooth me and talk once again. I will remember the calm he brought with his chaos as I fix any damage knowing it is the price I pay for his visit. A visit welcome and not forgotten.